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1)Do you know how many guys she has slept with?
2)Did she tell you any details?
*If the answer is yes
2.1)Did she used condom?
2.2)Did she swallowed?
2.3)Did she ever gave only a blowjob or handjob?
2.4)Did she tell you any other detail...position etc...?
2.5)Where they usually ejaculated?
3)How many one night stands she had?
4)Was she easy for laid?
5)What she already tried with sex?
6)What turn her on and what are her fetishes?
It's easier to ask at the beginning..
I dont like unpleasant surprises
From a very recent experience......
DON'T ASK A QUESTION UNLESS YOU ARE REALLY PREPARED TO DEAL WITH THE ANSWER!!!
Most people have a past relationship experience when meeting someone new. What someone did or didn't do in them shouldn't intrude upon your relationship.
You don't know what type of men were involved...was it an abusive or dominant relationship??? If so, you may open wounds that this person worked years to forget.
I totally agree with wet, focus on the here & now. Do you REALLY want to share your life with the shadows of the past??? That WILL be one mighty crowded bed!
Also, as wet mentioned, WHAT ABOUT YOUR PAST???
It's called the PAST for a reason. Sometimes you just need to put a lock on that door and forget about it!!!
If the reason you feel you NEED to know the answers is health....get tested! It's NOT an unreasonable request in today's world.
If it's to gauge what you can expect in your relationship... discuss your likes and dislikes.
And one more thing...if I were to sit you down separately, with all the men I have been involved with...to discuss what went on in our sexual relationship...you would not hear the same story twice!
What goes on in each one depends on the person I'm involved with at the time.
As I have stated before, I was raped when I was 16, sex did not become an enjoyable experience for me til my late 30's. If you were to compare my experiences from 16-37 to today....it would be like comparing TWO different people!
And even today, what I enjoy with one person, might not even enter the next relationship at all!
I really have to agree that the past is the past, it doesn't really matter if male or female. While bringing up the past can for some be erotic, more often then not it brings up a sense of competition which doesn't belong in a relationship. Always trying to be better than the past can be frustrating and tiring. Focusing on the present....and future is the best option. However, I think asking about what turns them on or what is their favorite fantasy is all within the realm of learning/pleasuring each other.......unless specific names/past partners/performance are use as examples.
Past is past...
I agree ,but sometimes can be more complicated.
I had such experience with my ex-girlfriend.
i didn't care about her past,But few months later someone revealed her past.
I tried but i couldn't forget.I had doubts and i lost my trust into her.
It's impossible to trust someone,when dirty secrets from her past are haunting you
And without trust the relationship won't last long.
I know that you can't interrogate your girfriend/wife.
I was just wondering how well do you know your girfriend/wife.
Ok scorpio, I have an issue with one thing you just wrote....."someone".
How do you know the person was being truthful? And not just trying to cause trouble. Have you discussed this with your partner? Or taking this other persons word as the truth.
Did you have a trust issue prior to the new knowledge? If not, I say let it go! Or you are going to live a nightmare life. And that means both of you.
Obviously I don't know the details or how recent the incident....but you are the only one who can determine how this plays out for the rest of your relationship. And if this is constantly eating away at your thoughts, you can kiss what you had good bye! Eventually your words and actions will be affected by these thoughts, and it won't go unnoticed by your partner, no matter how slight they are!
I didn't care about her past, and I didn't believed the rumors
We were together for seven months and I trusted her
My friend told me that he heard rummors about my girlfriend.
I didn't believe.
few days later I saw her in the car.
The next day I saw her again, and the third day I went to the car
and caught her on the back seats while she had sex.
I found that she slept with others when i started dating her
Well, then, all I can say is....she might not be a 1 guy kinda gal. And maybe it's time to move on to another relationship that's more tailored to what you're looking for.
If you're not prepared to do that, then your only choice is to accept the behavior. Seems to me, the ball is in YOUR court, you decide the outcome.
Personally, I only see 3
outcomes....
1. Discuss it and work thru it.
2. Walk away from it.
3. Deal/accept it.
